Rejection hurts and is extremely unpleasant. Nevertheless, it is part of life. We cannot prevent being rejected or encountering rejection. However, we can learn to handle rejection better. In this post, I share with you 7 helpful tips.
Rejection is something I think we experience often (sometimes too often if you ask me) in life: We get a rejection on a job application, a rejection from our crush, our partner leaves us, a friend cancels the long awaited meeting and in the office our project idea is rejected.
We can be rejected at every turn and unfortunately there is no real prevention for it.
But why is it so difficult for us to deal with rejection in the first place?
If we are confronted with it so often, you would think that you would have slowly gotten used to being rejected. But no. Fiddlesticks. Being rejected is always a painful experience.
But somehow we don’t manage to go through the world with compassion and love. Either we are too busy with ourselves, projecting our own problems onto the other person, our ego has taken over, we slept badly, ate something bad, the work, the spouse, the child…reasons upon reasons why we act or react like this. But basically we all have a common goal – to lead a happy and content life. At least that’s what I’m assuming to this day, unless you disagree, in which case PLEASE leave me a comment.
But, and this is the point – why does rejection still feel like a slap in the face to us? And that’s where I have to go way out on a limb. Because, for evolutionary reasons, those people who were well integrated into a community came through better. Those who were on their own were more likely to be eaten by the saber-toothed tiger that was already lurking around the corner, or to freeze to death because they couldn’t look after themselves well enough. The people who were hurt when they were excluded from a community were consequently the better adapted people and survived more easily. Our brains still haven’t unlearned this connection.
Wow. Welcome to the here & now ladies and gentlemen…so to get through your life with ease in the 21st century, you’ll find my tips.
I’m sharing with you my 7 tips to better deal with rejection
So what can we do? How can we manage to deal with rejection better? The following 7 tips can help you protect your self-worth in the face of rejection and deal with rejection more constructively.
- Do not take it personally
- Find alternative explanations
- ONE opinion, ONE point of view at ONE time from ONE person – so stay realistic
- Be good to yourself and treat yourself well
- Inquire and find clarity in this situation that is uncomfortable for you
- Reflect the situation and maybe recognize YOUR shadow child part
- Talk to a good friend and ask him/ her to make a list of positive attributes of you
You are a valuable person and no rejection, no rebuff and no disrespect will ever change that. Believe in yourself!
Would you like to believe in it more, but your self-doubt stands in your way too often? Then I invite you to join me for a yoga class or a life coaching session to increase your self-esteem, find new self-confidence and finally meet yourself with more self-care.
You are a WONDER.